It is every girl’s dream to pursue higher education and achieve great virtues for themselves and their society. In their quest to attain this higher height, some end up not able to achieve their set goals because of their vulnerability and powerlessness.
I have heard stories on sex for grade but i didn’t know the extent of the assertion until i experienced it.
Sitting at the back of the lecture hall made up of 70 percent young ladies, i tried to imagine and figure out “who is a victim of “sex for grades”?!
Who should be blamed?
Is it the young ladies who are mostly seen in half naked dresses indirectly seducing lecturer’s or
The heartless Lecturer’s who can not control what is beneath their zip.
HOW REAL IS SEX FOR GRADE?
I heard stories about how this particular lecturer sleeps with girls in an exchange for grades. I deliberately decided not to get close to him because i didn’t want to fall a victim.I never responded to or asked a question during his lecture hours. Even when i don’t understand and need clarification. Getting to the latter part of the semester, he realized i had never talked in class and gave me his number to call him. I never called him and he kept requesting i do so. I once called him but i didn’t reveal my identity. I was later told he took my details from the course rep.
In my mind i knew i was going to suffer the same torture my friend’s had gone through. Although i remained calm , it was very though for me. To cut the long story short, I was given a D because i refused to call him. I later confronted him and lodged a complaint and he changed it to a C.
In another course i was given a B because i refused to go on a date with the lecturer when he requested on several occations.I couldn’t confront him or lodge a complaint because i was afraid he would rather mark me down.
I received several sexual comments a couple of times from some lecturer’s and at one point a lecturer asked me to give him a kiss on his cheek in his office which i eventually did because of fear.
A lecturer gave me an E and when i confronted him he confidently said it’s the result of my stubbornness. If i had gone to bed with him i would have had an A.
I have heard awful stories of how innocent girls fall victim but at the end of the day they are not given the agreed grades.
WHY THE SITUATION IS PREVALENT
- The problem is rampant because there are no measures put in place to ensure that issues on sexual harrassment on the various campuses are properly attended to at the right quarters.
- There are no proper education on the laws and policies binding sexual harrassment in most Institutions. If female students are properly educated on their rights when it comes to seeking sexual consent no matter your status on the campus and if issues of harrassment are attended to with strict measures, all the girls who have suffered silently would have been saved.
- There are no effective policies that ensures offenders are dealt with.
Have you ever thought of the number of girls who have committed suicide because they couldn’t endure the pain and shame and there were no evidence to prove these allegations?!
A lecturer having an affair or showing interest in a female student is not a problem if there is no conflict of interest. But using her grades as a statement of intention to damage or harm the person is the problem.
Though, legal it is unprofessional for lecturers to date students. Lecturers posses power and must maintain professional conduct due to conflict of interest.
SEX FOR GRADE IS TWO SIDED
15 percent of these harrassment comes from the female students. And hey, the lecturer is human.
I remember during one of our end of semester exams, a lady seated next to me in the front seat confessed she internationally wore a short dress to seduce the male invegilators. She opened her legs showing her seductive big thighs and “pant”. She said that was the only way she could distruct the invigilators who were lecturers.
” oh Sir please do something about it for me err I will do anything you want. I can ride you if you want”
Lecturer : oh I’m not interested
Student : ” you I will call you this evening okay”
This is a conversation between a lecturer and a student. How awful and shameful.
Instances where lecturers genuinely help students, some would want to show appreciation with sex.
If we are to give lecturers the opportunity to share their side of the story or probably install a secret camera in their office , we would be amazed with the kind of conversation that will transpire between them and the very people they are harrassing.
Some go to their offices purposely to seduce them and if they fall we start pointing fingers at them.
“To me I’d say it’s a two sided affair. You can’t put all the blame on the lecturers. A girl goes to a lecturer’s office wearing seductive dress what do you think the outcome would be if he is not conscious . I think it’s a matter of choice for a lady to succumb to whether she’d allow herself to be intimate with her lecturers or not. You have the choice to report any foul means or even challenge the lecturer in case of grade fraud. When I was in school i witnessed situations where my lady friends said no to such advances. Whereas some said yes because they felt they had to use what they had to get what they wanted. The universities should also enforce the kind of relationship between students and lecturer. Especially limitations on where and when you can see a lecturer”
Female students cannot suffer for something they did not bargain for. Enough of the torture!!!
Lecturers can not suffer!!
Enough of the torture!!
SEX FOR GRADE IS UNETHICAL.